Low Vitamin D And Libido
Low Vitamin D And Libido
How to increase male libido quickly
You've landed here wanting to know how to increase male libido. Understandably, you'd love to find a magic libido booster for men.
You and your partner or spouse deserve to really enjoy a healthy sexual relationship, no matter how long you've been together. And that can be difficult if you're suffering from low libido.
I'm glad you're here – it means that you want to find a way to resolve the problem and boost your libido, no doubt as quickly as possible.
Before we start, though, I highly recommend you ask your family doctor. Your doctor can check if your problem might simply stem from a disbalance in the required hormones. Quick and easy!
Just in case you're feeling embarrassed
As a couples counsellor, I've noticed how women find it easier than men to talk about their lack of desire. Men tend to be more reticent about coming forward with the problem.
Yet, a low male libido can be caused by a physical condition, emotional problems, medication or all three – much the same as for women. (See How to increase libido in women.)
So, there's no need to feel guilty, ashamed or embarrassed about wanting to increase male libido.
Why can it be so difficult to increase male libido?
From my practice
Alice was convinced Geoff was having an affair. She had done all she could to find out if he was cheating on her.
The truth was that Geoff had not turned away from her, but turned into himself because he felt increasingly unable to cope at work.
Needless to say, he wasn't feeling very lustful either! Alice had drawn the wrong conclusion about their lack of physical intimacy. If only they had found a way to talk about all this sooner.
Understanding what's causing your problem will help you to take the right action to increase your libido naturally all by yourself. That is – if I can't convince you to see your doctor first.
Let's discuss your age first. (Scroll on if neither age nor the side-effects of medication apply to you.)
Increase male libido on account of advancing years?
Is your age the problem?
No, it isn't according to Australian researchers at the University of Adelaide. They discovered that depression and lifestyle factors, not your age, cause a decline in testosterone*.
Until we learned about the outcome of this study we thought that men over the age of 40 would have to expect a drop in testosterone. But, clearly, you don't need a libido booster on account of your age.
There has to be a significant drop in testosterone for this to lead to a drop in libido. Men's testosterone levels are naturally lower when they become a father.
Let's now look at a quick way to get your libido back up 'naturally' by checking your medication. If you're not on any medication, scroll to the next section.
Natural male libido treatments
How to increase libido in men with hypnosis
Hypnosis is the easiest way to successfully treat male low libido.
Why?
Because your libido is controlled by yourunconscious mind (in combination with your hormone levels of course).
The result of successful hypnosis?
You will feel generally much more vibrant and motivated because…
- if you're not in a committed relationship, dating (at least not the physical part) will no longer be such a worry
- you won't have to think of ways to avoid your partner or wife's advances
- you'll no longer worry about 'bedtime'
- you won't have to come up with yet another excuse
- that sense of doom will be lifted
- you can enjoy a healthy sex life again without any worries about performance.
The beauty of this treatment is that you can do it in the comfort of your own environment when it suits you. It is safe, effective, good value for money and – importantly – non-invasive.
So, have a look at the Hypnosis Downloads Bundle for Male Problems. Or, get all your questions answered: FAQ about hypnosis.
How to increase male libido naturally
Review your medication
You might have been tempted to rely on Viagra or any other quick-acting magic cure.
However, there may well be a simpler, more natural way to boost your libido.
Below is a list of drugs, the side effects of which include a reduction of desire. So, if your desire plummetted soon after you started taking them, discuss with your doctor if you can take an alternative.
8 kinds of medication that cause low libido
- Recent research has shown that drugs for hair loss may cause your desire to drop into your boots. Propecia (finasteride – also prescribed for prostate problems) causes erectile dysfunction, decreased arousal and problems with orgasm in a significant number of men after long-term use. Worryingly the symptoms lingered long after they stopped using the medication (link at the bottom of the page).
- If you are taking antidepressants (SSRIs, MAOI, Tricyclics), don't be surprised if your libido is not what it used to be. It may have already been affected by the fact that you were depressed. However, chances are that it got worse since you have been on antidepressants.
I get so cross with doctors sometimes as they often fail to consider that if men are depressed because they are havingrelationship problems, they could only make it worse by putting them on antidepressants. - Taking medication for epilepsy? Carbamazepine can cause impotence.
- Medication for high blood pressure also has a negative impact on your performance. Lifestyle changes – including a change in diet have been proven to have a positive effect on blood pressure.
- Lifestyle changes are also needed if you are taking medication for peptic ulcers and reflux disease. It may well be that stress reduction techniques and a change of diet mean that your medication can be reduced.
- Benzodiazepines are prescribed mainly for anxiety, panic disorder, sleep problems and depression. These are conditions you can potentially improve by yourself – possibly with the help of self-hypnosis (see my article on self-hypnosis with the help of professionally-produced downloads).
- Drugs to treat HIV
- Drugs to lower your cholesterol (LDL) – statins.
Again, if you're taking any of these medications, discuss with your doctor if you can they can change your prescription. It may be the fastest way to get your libido back up.
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The real downer of stress and depression – a loss of libido
Stress and depression are the most common causes of low desire in men. I have on this site all the information you need to bring yourself back up again if you feel depressed or stressed.
I know you might be feeling really rubbish if you are stressed or depressed, but I really want you to do something about it now.
You can find links further down the page to other resources on this site that will help you to deal with depression. Please don't delay any longer – avoiding issues will only mean that they will catch up with you at some point… and there's never a convenient time for that.
If you are suffering from depression or anxiety do let me help you to explore how you can get yourself better – see my article on treating depression naturally.
Or, you can speak to a relationship coach.
How to increase desire in men naturally
Stress at work affecting your libido?
If so, it is very likely that the result of this is noticeable at home, even if you've been trying to hide it. You're likely to cope with short periods of stress, however, prolonged periods of stress would have taken their toll and may well have resulted in your lack of physical desire.
At work, there's much you have no control over – it is what it is. However, I'd like you to consider (again) what youdo have control over. Hop over to my article on problem-solving strategies for a step-by-step approach to help you with that. You may discover that you do have options you weren't aware of before.
You're likely to feel relieved just by taking some action. Whether it is by dealing differently with a lousy boss or colleague, lack of promotion prospects, monotonous work or disciplinary issues.
Smoking can cause low libido
The effects of smoking on fertility and performance
Smokers…
- have increased DNA damage, due to oxidative stress in their sperm cells (this can affect the next generation!)
- produce less sperm of less quality, their sperm, for example, is less mobile
- have a higher chance of becoming impotent (erectile dysfunction)
- might be less fertile.
See this study and The impact of cigarette smoking on human semen parameters and hormones
I won't be in the least surprised if you've already tried to give up smoking – maybe several times. So, let your unconscious do the work instead of your will-power. I promise you, it is so much more effective!
Have a look at "Smoking Cessation" on my Hypnosis Online FAQ page.
Decrease your anxiety to increase your libido
If you suffer from anxiety it is no wonder that you are not doing too well in the bedroom. (Interestingly, an orgasm can in itself relieve some anxiety, due to the release of the hormone oxytocin – the bonding hormone).
Hop over to my article Anxiety for no reason.
Anxiety can be such a debilitating condition, and medication is unlikely to offer a long-term solution – tempting a 'magic pill' might be.
Continuing to ignore the problem may well make it worse. I recommend, therefore, you get in touch with a counsellor to discuss the best way forward.
Hypnotherapy can also be very helpful. See my article Self-hypnosis FAQ and downloads to discover how to easily give it a go.
Increase male libido by dealing with marital or relationship problems?
About half of all people who suffer from depression have relationship problems. If the two of you are having problems, it's time to really fix your relationship.
You may find that your decreased libido is asecondary problem that will resolve itself when the two of you are getting on again.
I've got your back here: my Loving Communication Kit for Couples will make it much easier for the two of you to repair your relationship.
Wondering if your relationship is over? My Relationship Compatibility Test can help you to figure it out and come to a more rounded decision.
Alternatively, I recommend you connect with an online expert relationship coach. For further information, see my page: Online Relationship Advice
Low desire and impotence – increasing libido in men
Generally, libido exists separately from impotence. Impotence means the inability to develop and maintain an erection of a quality sufficient for performance.
However, your low libido can be the result of impotence.
Not being able to get an erection or maintain it can cause a huge sense of embarrassment, stress and consequential avoidance behaviour. This, in turn, can result in relationship problems.
You won't be surprised to know that it's also linked with depression. For further information, see my article on depression warning signs.
How to increase libido in men by tackling health problems?
The inability to develop or maintain an erection can happenevery now and then, or for aperiod of time, orevery now and then over a period of time.
It is vital that your doctor rules out any health problems, such as diabetes or heart disease, which may be causing erectile dysfunction.
Of course, your problems can also be the result of too much alcohol. If your alcohol consumption is worrisome, read my article on the stages of alcoholism to discover if you have indeed a serious problem.
Increase male libido by getting enough sunlight – really?
Could you be deficient vitamin D? Your doctor could have it checked. Don't be tempted to self-medicate as too much Vit D will damage your health.
You need to get yourself out and about, not just to relax and/or get some exercise, but to get some sun on your skin. Vitamin D is manufactured in your skin when it's exposed to sunlight. A deficiency can cause erectile dysfunction.
In addition, sunlight boosts your testosterone levels, completely free of charge!
Drugs to increase libido in males
You do want drugs to increase male libido?
Well, if your testosterone levels are low, then you can get testosterone injections, patches or gel.
Other than that, there aren't any drugs you can take, however much I understand your wish for a quick boost in your libido.
Of course, you could take Viagra. However, I hope you love yourself enough to take a cool, calm look at the whole picture – your complete health and well-being.
Is your weight getting in the way?
Being overweight can also lead to impotence and low libido. What a daily fight it can be to lose weight!
Yet, weight management is essential in the treatment of inhibited desire. Again, I suggest you support your efforts with the help of self-hypnosis. You may find yourself to be more successful.
What if there's no obvious cause for your low libido or impotence?
If your doctor has given you the all-clear it's possible your libido will improve naturally. Nevertheless – it's a warning sign.
You certainly want to avoid becoming anxious about having little desire and thereby doubling the problem ("Easier said than done", I hear you say!)
Do keep the communication channels with your partner or spouse open. Talk together about the potential reasons for your low libido. They may well know you better than you think.
Consulting a specialist therapist
The next best step would be to contact a specialist therapist for help in improving your physical relationship.
The therapist will talk with you (and your partner or wife) about what is involved in increasing your libido (and what can make making love more pleasurable for you both).
You'll also be asked to set aside time for love-making. You're given tasks and ideas for you both to explore and try out in the privacy of your own home. A series of sessions will help to ensure that progress is made at a pace that is appropriate for each one of you.
This type of therapist will also be able to identify any underlying issues that need sorting (if there are any). He or she may be able to help you with relationship advice, offer couple counselling or refer you to a couples therapist.
Finally
The worst action you could take would be to stick your head in the sand!
I hope this article has given you some indication of what the problem might be. It's up to you to do something about it now so that once again you can enjoy a healthy libido.
I know you're far stronger and more resilient than you think you are. The two of you can overcome this problem with kindness and compassion. You've got this.
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Other helpful links
Letter to an advice column in the New York Times.
$ 4.95 Pill That Kills Erectile Dysfunction Gets Biggest Deal In Shark Tank History
*Endocrine Society. Declining testosterone levels in men not part of normal ageing. ScienceDaily, 23 Jun. 2012, via ScienceDaily
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